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THE TWO SIDES OF STRESS

Blog, Career, Personal

Stress doesn’t come out of nowhere.

Quite often, it’s a self-inflicted wound.

I think we can all agree that there are at least two types of stress. Positive and negative stress. Positive stress happens on a first date, the first time you go paragliding, or when you do something you love in front of a lot of people.

Positive stress is exciting. It lifts you up. It can make you feel exhilarated, like you’re on top of the world.

Negative stress is paralyzing, and it brings you down.

Positive stress feeds your self-esteem. Negative stress tears it apart. Positive stress makes you perform even better. Negative stress makes you less motivated and effective. It’s easier to make mistakes when you’re stressed, stressing you out even more!

TOUGH AS NAILS

I used to be very hard on myself because I thought that this would push me to the next level. I always focused on what I could have done better, instead of looking at how much I had grown. Looking back, I was often angry at myself and disappointed. When things didn’t go as expected, I saw myself as a complete failure.

Living like that is exhausting and painful. And more importantly, life isn’t playful and fun anymore. After I had had a health crisis, I decided I didn’t want to live like that for one more minute. Life was to be enjoyed and cherished. I gave myself permission to take the pressure off, and that’s when my healing really started.

Today I feel like I don’t have to prove anything to anyone. There’s no need to please people I don’t even know. All I want to do is put my best foot forward. On some days my best isn’t going to be as good as on other days, and I’m okay with that. It’s part of being human.

WINNER OR LOSER?

I no longer see myself as being in competition with my colleagues. Their wins don’t make me a loser. Did you know that originally, the Latin root from which the word “competition” was derived, means “to play together?”

To me it’s not about winning, but about the enjoyment of playing the game as best as you can. We’re all in it together, whether we realize it or not.

I compare it to making music. We’re all performing on our own instruments, and your violin does not compete with my trumpet. The only difference is our level of competence and confidence.

I still take my work seriously, but not to my detriment. If I don’t get that audition in before the deadline, so be it. Let someone else have that job! If I don’t publish a new blog post at exactly 7:00 AM EST, why worry? I’m not a robot, and people can be patient.

DEADLINE OR LIFELINE

One day I got all worked up about not meeting a deadline. I decided to contact the client and share what was happening. The next thing she said was:

“Don’t worry about it. We’re experiencing a slight delay with the video editing, so we don’t need your VO until next week. I’d rather you do it right, than do it fast.”

I’m not saying you shouldn’t honor what you have committed to, BUT, if you level with the people you work with, they’re often a lot more flexible than you might have expected.

When I thought about writing a blog about stress, an image came to mind that perfectly represents my shift in thinking.

LOOKING AT ART

I used to go to a huge museum and look at as many painting as time would allow. It was a mad dash until closing time. When I came out I was totally overwhelmed and exhausted, and couldn’t remember a thing.

These days I go in and take an hour to look at only one work of art that intrigues me. I breathe it in like an entire symphony.

And you know what?

It’s a much more fulfilling and lasting experience when you take the stress out of it.

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  1. Tom Beveridge says

    June 16, 2021 at 10:55 pm

    Great article and insight. Thanks for sharing it!

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    • Paul Strikwerda says

      June 17, 2021 at 8:56 am

      My pleasure, Tom.

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  2. Jon Gardner says

    June 17, 2021 at 11:07 am

    Your comment about the museum reminded me of how I used to be. I was always the one who wanted to stop and absorb while others were racing ahead. I need to remember that part of me. Thanks for the reminder.

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    • Paul Strikwerda says

      June 17, 2021 at 4:03 pm

      You’re very welcome, Jon.

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  3. Joshua Alexander says

    June 17, 2021 at 6:05 pm

    I love that you can sit there and intentionally notice and study the intricacies and facets of a single work of art over trying to hurriedly appreciate many of them. That is beautiful. I learned long ago about the differences between eustress and distress, and I need MUCH more eustress in my life. Otherwise, the distress makes its home in me because I have given it every license to do its own destructive work on my heart rather than do the constructive work that I know I should do. The destructive work is panicking and stressing out about every little thing, like your blog timeliness or your audition timeliness. The constructive work is sitting there and just breathing. I can do that in my pasture. I just did that a few minutes ago out on the rocker, feeling the cool breeze and hearing nothing but the wind chimes. Sooooooooo good. Bring on the eustress. Thank you for this great article, my friend!

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    • Paul Strikwerda says

      June 17, 2021 at 6:25 pm

      Yep, eustress is the good stress. Can’t stress that enough!

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  4. diana says

    June 18, 2021 at 6:41 pm

    Thank you Mr. Strikwerda for balancing out my thoughts with
    your wise and wonderful words!!!!

    regards,
    diana

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  5. Craig Williams says

    June 22, 2021 at 9:32 pm

    The museum analogy struck a chord with me. I was always in a rush and thought I had things to do. Now I meditate and take time to enjoy things. Just like you said, breathe them in and really take time to make a memory. Thanks for the great blog.

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