Why do I want to talk about it now? Well, it has to do with a private message I received from a colleague. He wanted to let me know that he thinks that one of the more well known coaches in the business is preying on naive newbies, telling them they will make it big even though their talent is small.
Why would this person do that? Because there’s much money to be made from people who are clueless and who believe what they want to believe, especially if someone they trust tells them they can be a star.
Now, when you’ve been writing stories about the VO industry for as long as I have (over 20 years!), people know where to find me. From time to time they’ll send me tips and suggestions for stories, or things to look into. It’s almost like a secret network of sources, informants if you will.
Most of these suggestions end up in the bin because the stories don’t check out. They’re based on unfounded rumors and silly gossip. Some folks have a bone to pick, they’re afraid to do the picking, and hope I will do it for them. Those are the folks who want me to do their dirty work and risk my reputation.
Some of my “informants” have spent a lot of money on coaching without much to show for, and now they want to “expose their coach as a money-grabbing charlatan.”
If you’re not getting the results you had hoped for, it’s always easy to blame someone else, isn’t it?
But there’s another reason why people want me to write a negative blog about someone they have singled out or are obsessed with.
It’s easy to feel envious in this industry where people constantly post about all their wins, all the amazing projects they just landed, and all the praise they have received from clients and colleagues. It’s very much a “Look at ME” industry.
In some, this will bring out the “I want what you’re having” feeling. Or: “Why them and not me. I work just as hard, if not harder.”
That’s because this business is very unpredictable, subjective, and unfair. There are no guarantees.
Just because you recently invested in an expensive Neumann U87 microphone, doesn’t mean you’ll be booking like crazy. Some peeps spend thousands of dollars on demos and all they hear is crickets… while someone else with a home-made demo and a cheap mic lands the job of a lifetime.
Jealousy is often linked to feelings of insecurity, fear, anger, and low self-esteem. It tells us more about how we feel about ourselves than how we feel about others.
If you’re envious, don’t badmouth the person to me, hoping I will blog about it. Instead of being resentful, become curious and resourceful. Ask yourself: How did this person I’m so envious of become so successful? What can I learn from them? ‘Cause, if they can do it, I can probably figure it out too!
Or how about this: turn your jealousy into admiration and humility. Admiration is a lost art, these days. Why not celebrate someone’s success and be happy a colleague gets a much deserved break? Your time will come!
Someone else’s achievements do not diminish or threaten your career.
Practice being humble (which is different from having a low opinion of yourself). Humble people don’t think they’re better than anyone else. They can be self -assured, but they’re not arrogant.
Jealous people are often self-absorbed and not so grateful for what they have. I know it is a cliché, but please count your blessings. The more time you take to reflect on what you have accomplished, the less time you have to worry about other people’s success.
Plus, it helps to realize that success can be a facade. Success often equals increased stress. I’m sure you have heard of chefs who hated getting a Michelin star because now they have so much more to prove.
We all know stories of celebrities who were admired by the world, but who were sad, lonely, drug-addicted human beings.
In fact, these celebs might be jealous of the “ordinary” life you lead, outside of the spotlight and the pressures of always having to be perfect.