“As a woman, I’ve had to find my voice. Have a sense of my own worth. Know what I have to offer. ’Cos there’ll always be someone to question that.”
Jodie said these words at a moment in which her star is rising and rising. She’s made it from the streets of Liverpool all the way to Hollywood. Pretty much every director wants to work with her, and audiences can’t wait to see her.
And yet… she thinks there’ll always be someone questioning her worth.
My first question would be: “How would you define your own worth?”
Is it something determined by the outside world, the agents, the tabloids, and the box office? Or does one’s sense of worth come from inside, from self-love, self-esteem, and a deep inner feeling that you’re basically okay?
People who question their self worth often ask themselves: “Do I really deserve this?”
This question doesn’t come out of nowhere. It often has its roots in painful childhood experiences, and comes from critical people who were close to us when we were young and impressionable. These experiences and voices became internalized, and are now part of our mental makeup.
People who question their own worth do something else: they compare themselves to the person they they think they ought to be (or believe society wants them to be), and they compare themselves to those they see as more successful. If you do that, you’ll always find someone you don’t measure up to, to make you feel inferior.
The truth is: There is no one like you. You are incomparable and valuable beyond measure!
If you make your worth dependent on what you cannot control, you make yourself small and vulnerable. What you CAN control is how you view yourself and speak to yourself.
SHOW SOME RESPECT
For starters, you can treat yourself with kindness and respect. Be okay with your imperfections. They make you human.
If you wish to feel your worth, start by doing things that are important and worthwhile to you.
Doing meaningful things for causes greater than yourself, is one of the keys to building a healthy sense of self-worth.
Did you get that, Jodie?