On my way to Las Vegas, I popped in a Tony Robbins tape from his Personal Power series.
Tony Robbins is a hugely successful motivational speaker, trainer and writer. If you have a million dollars, he’ll give you his private number and you may call him 365 days a year for a private coaching session.
People either love him or hate him. Those who hate him are usually put off by his hyped up, in your face presentation style. Those who love him are pumped up by his towering presence and contagious enthusiasm, whether it’s on CD, during a live seminar or on TV.
Robbins built his career on the study of success. Following in the footsteps of NLP-creators Bandler and Grinder, he developed a toolbox based on what he called Neuro Associative Conditioning (NAC). It’s a mix of positive attitudes, beliefs and strategies that help people design and live the life they’ve always dreamt of.
MODELING THE MIND
At the basis of NLP and NAC is the process of modeling. I’m not talking about the catwalk in Milan, but about the study of exceptional people: business tycoons, sports icons, therapists, artists etcetera.
The idea is that these people -in order to achieve something extraordinary- have set themselves up for success. They have carefully (and often unconsciously) conditioned themselves to accomplish astonishing things. Modeling is all about uncovering and learning from what goes on behind the scenes: what instructions do these people give their brains and bodies?
Take Steve Jobs, Richard Branson or Oprah Winfrey. None of them seemed to be destined for greatness. Jobs was given up for adoption by a Syrian Muslim. Branson suffers from dyslexia and was academically challenged. Winfrey was born into poverty to a teenage single mother and raised in an inner-city neighborhood.
Look at what they have accomplished!
What is the secret to their success? Is there a recipe? Can it be broken down into bits and pieces and taught to mere mortals such as you and me? Robbins believes it can be done, and one of the key ingredients of this recipe for success can be captured in a single word:
M I N D S E T
You might not be able to choose the cards life has dealt you, but at least you control how you approach and play the game. Your mindset is the filter through which you look at reality and interpret what it means to you and which actions to take.
A mindset is not something you were born with that operates outside of your awareness. A mindset is a choice. You determine whether the glass is half empty or half full. Not your mother or father or teacher or upbringing or education or race or any set of circumstances.
What separates Winfrey, Branson and Jobs from the rest, is a foundation of empowering beliefs.
An empowering belief is the difference between looking at the world in terms of problems or in terms of opportunities.
An empowering belief is the difference between looking at obstacles as roadblocks or as stepping-stones.
An empowering belief is the difference between “I’ll never be able to do it” and “Yes I can!”
WHAT DRIVES YOU
As I was cruising through the dry Nevada desert, Robbins talked about another powerful principle he had modeled. Whether in sports, politics, business or in the entertainment industry, all leaders had this in common: they knew the difference between being interested and being committed.
The interested person is merely exploring options.
The committed person is going for it.
The interested person says: “I’d like to,” “I’m thinking of,” “It would be nice…”
The committed person says: “This is my path,” “This is my passion,” “Nothing can stop me.”
The interested person reactively responds to opportunities.
The committed person pro-actively creates opportunities.
The interested person is not invested in the outcome.
The committed person does whatever it takes to achieve the outcome.
The interested person is conditioned to “trying”.
The committed person is conditioned to “doing”.
The interested person always has reasons.
The committed person has results.
When I look at my own voiceover community, I hear a lot of whining and complaining about how hard it is to break into the business and earn a living. Reading between the lines, I notice an undeserved sense of entitlement and lack of respect for what it takes to make it. Sorry folks…
There are no silver platters, silver bullets
or golden shortcuts to the top
It comes down to this: what are YOU willing to DO to build a solid career and live a meaningful life?
Are you merely interested or are you truly committed?
It’s nice to be ‘interested’ in something and fantasize about your future. I’m all for creative visualization. But without ACTION a dream will always be a dream; something you intend to do… one day. And you know what they say about the road that’s paved with good intentions.
According to Robbins, successful role models know how to turn those intentions into a ‘magnificent obsession’. They channel their energy and focus it like a laser beam. To the rest of the world, it looks like these people are working their butts off, but to them it doesn’t even feel like work. They’re having the best time of their life!
Committed people don’t let things happen. They make things happen.
Committed people don’t complain about something. They do something about it.
Committed people don’t quit. They learn from experience and move on.
Commitment is a solemn agreement you make with yourself to do everything it takes to achieve a goal, and then some.
If you’re sick and tired of all the excuses and rationalizations, the if’s, the but’s and the maybe’s… perhaps you are ready to commit yourself and decide that your time has come.
If that’s the case, I have a question for you. Don’t answer it until you have fully considered it.
What’s the one thing you can do today, to show the world (and yourself) that you’re truly, madly and deeply committed?
Use the Power of Now and DO IT.
For losers, there’s always “tomorrow”.
This moment is yours, today.
Embrace it and hold on to it, for the rest of your life!
Paul Strikwerda ©2011
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